Home can still be a place of adventure
Prior to writing this blog, I had every intention of discussing the various ways to keep your summer exciting while spending time with your children. Rest assured, I will still cover those ideas. However, during my search for fun activities, my son reminded me of the little things we can do around the house that have a significant impact on his life – and I'm certain they will for yours as well.
Lately, my to-do list has been running ahead of the clock, just like many parents experience. There never seems to be enough time in the day, which often results in my son missing out on the quality time I wish to dedicate to him. So, I thought about how I could ensure MJ, my son, still gets to spend time with me during those one or two hours after school during dinner, bath time, and bedtime. Yesterday, we embarked on a culinary adventure. Being a 4-year-old, he adores being in the kitchen with Mommy – he enjoys doing everything with me. Hence, I planned for him to assist me in cooking, and it turned out to be quite a treat!
Equipped with child-safe cutting utensils, I allowed him to chop vegetables, help make pasta, and even clean the dishes afterward. This small step reminded me that even when time is scarce and we can't venture outside the house for a thrilling summer activity, there are practical and enjoyable things we can do at home. It still allows us to bond, create lasting memories, and most importantly, it allows me to slow down and marvel at my son's presence. It's crucial that we take the time to engage in these small practical activities when we feel drained.
Years ago, I came across a book by Shonda Rhimes, the renowned TV producer behind beloved shows like "Grey's Anatomy," "Scandal," and "How to Get Away with Murder." In her book titled The Year of Yes, she shared her commitment to saying "yes" to her daughter when she needed her the most. Even during work meetings, if her daughter asked to play, she would dedicate five minutes to playing with dolls. If she received a work call and her daughter required attention, she would pause and spend time with her. Granted, our demanding and unpredictable jobs as healthcare workers may not always allow for such flexibility, but this summer, I encourage you, if possible, to seize opportunities to say "yes" to your children.
Say yes to an extra five minutes to read one last page at bedtime, yes to five more minutes of bath time, or if your son is anything like MJ, say yes to "five more minutes, Mommy, of playing superheroes and saving the city."
Now for the times we that we are able to be intentional of our summer planning, here are some helpful tips to keep summer fun and exciting for you and your kids.
- Setting Expectations: Start by discussing and setting realistic expectations with your children (if age appropriate) about what the summer might look like. This will help manage their excitement and prepare them for any upcoming changes or activities.
- Creating a Flexible Schedule: Establishing a loose routine for your days can provide a sense of structure, while still allowing for spontaneity and fun. Include a balance of outdoor activities, educational pursuits, and downtime to keep everyone engaged and happy.
- Involving the Kids: Encourage your children to participate in the planning process. Allow them to contribute ideas for activities or day trips, fostering a sense of ownership and anticipation for the summer ahead.
Engaging Activities for Endless Fun
- Exploring Nature: Take advantage of the warmer weather by organizing outdoor adventures. Plan hikes, picnics, beach visits, or camping trips to help your children connect with nature and enjoy the beauty of the season.
- Creative Arts and Crafts: Spark your children's imagination and creativity through art projects or crafts. Set up a dedicated space at home for them to unleash their artistic skills, or join local workshops to learn new techniques.
- Summer Reading Challenge: Encourage your kids to develop a love of reading by organizing a summer reading challenge. Create a list of age-appropriate books, set reading goals, and reward them for their achievements. This activity not only promotes literacy, but also provides quiet time for relaxation.
- Water Fun: Beat the heat by incorporating water-based activities into your summer routine. Set up a backyard sprinkler or plan regular trips to the local pool, water park, or lake. Water play cools everyone down, and guarantees hours of laughter and enjoyment.
Balancing Independence and Family Time
- Allowing Freedom: Summer vacation is an excellent opportunity for kids to develop their independence and self-reliance. Encourage them to take up individual hobbies or projects, allowing them to explore their interests and learn at their own pace.
- Quality Family Time: Amidst the busy summer schedule, make sure to set aside dedicated family time. Plan regular game nights, movie marathons, or even simple family dinners to strengthen bonds and create cherished memories together.
Self-Care for Parents
- Prioritizing Yourself: Remember to prioritize self-care and personal well-being during the summer months. Take breaks when needed, indulge in activities you enjoy, and seek support from family or friends to avoid burnout.
- Seeking Community: Join parenting groups, either online or offline, to connect with fellow parents facing similar challenges, exchange ideas, and offer support. Sharing experiences and learning from others can be invaluable.
Jaime Harry
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Wellness Program Liaison
jaime.harry@utsouthwestern.edu
About the Author
Jaime Harry is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Duke Certified Integrated Health and Wellness Coach. Jaime's passion is driven in Diversity Equity and Inclusion and Mental Wellness for all people.